Earlier this month we began ‘trying’ for a baby. That word is in quotes because of my fast fading hubris. Until this morning I would have said ‘earlier this month we stopped trying not to have a baby’. And then my period came. So now I am convinced I am infertile. I have been looking on the internet trying to find answers…… and comfort. It’s silly. Why can’t we wait for things any more?
My friend B is 8 months pregnant now, after a good 7 months of trying. I remember sitting at my kitchen table, rudely dismissing her worries: “It’s only been 6 months! That’s nothing!”. But timescales mean something different when it’s you wanting that baby. I got pregnant with T in the first month of ‘not trying not to’. And before that, I am very sad to say, I had had three abortions after solitary slip-ups. Maybe I deserve to have trouble conceiving. But maybe it’s a good thing; maybe I need to learn some lessons about the gift of life.
M, meanwhile, who was also suffering from fertility arrogance, thinks he has been drinking too much coffee and alcohol. It’s true, he does. But probably that has nothing to do with it. Next week we are off skiing. Not much chance for romance with little miss T sharing our room. Mainly I think I should relax and stop being a dog with a bone. It’s so boring and is something I’ve done all my life.
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It's true that abortions can affect your fertility but the girl I talked about on my blog who can't even afford her baby had at least three that I know of and got pregnant at 37.
You should not worry so much right now. It can take a while. It took me about 6 -7 months of trying before it happened.
Something to keep in mind, you got pregnant before, so you weren't infertile!
Hope this helps = )
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